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Are you reeling from your cancer diagnosis and treatment
but equally determined to make the most of the rest of
your life?
Are you looking for a roadmap to help you determine just
who and what is next?
Are you tired of putting yourself last and determined
to Live Your Best Life Now?
If any of these questions
resonate with you, then you’re in the right place. Imagine
being able to say that your life after cancer is better than
your life before it!
is filled with coaching tips, exercises and wisdom that will
help you create that kind of life. A life where you get up
excited to see what each day will bring and go to bed “good
tired,” at night.
Dear
Fellow Survivor:
My name is Kathy Santini and if any
of the above questions resonated with you I know exactly
how you feel. I know people say that all the time, but I
really, really do. You see, I myself am a cancer survivor
who was diagnosed with breast cancer in 1999. I also work
with cancer survivors in my workshops and coaching practice.
If you’re like me and the millions
of survivors before you, you’re aware as never before
just how very, very precious your life is. You’ve
lost your naïve and all too human belief that you’re
immortal and that time is an unlimited resource. And you’ve
decided that you want to use your time consciously and thoughtfully,
doing things that you love with those that you love.
As someone who has gone through a cancer diagnosis myself,
I know that after focusing so much time and energy on treatment
and on surviving, once treatment is finished, you find yourself
at loose ends. Contrast this to your family and friends,
who no matter how well meaning are relieved that “it’s
over,” and usually more than ready to get back to
whatever normal was before your diagnosis.
But like all archetypal heroes and heroines who are forced
to fight battles in unknown lands, you have returned from
your experience a changed person. After surgery and treatment,
you find yourself looking out over a totally new landscape,
even though it’s one you’ve known intimately
for years. While the physical geography of your outside
world hasn’t changed, your interior world has.
Because of your cancer experience, you now know as never
before just how precious life is. This old adage, that many
proclaim, isn’t just lip service to you; it’s
now part of your DNA. And it begs the question: how do you
want to spend the rest of your life?
If you’re like many survivors, the answer is “thoughtfully.”
Some of the women I work with following a cancer diagnosis
turn their lives upside down, as they go about planning
their new lives. Others discover that their lives are exactly
as they want them and they don’t make any changes.
Still others adjust certain areas of their lives, to find
more fulfillment.
But almost all of them, in my experience, use
their diagnosis as an opportunity to re-examine their lives.
They look at what’s working, what isn’t and
begin navigating the next stage of their journey.
What’s behind all this?
A cancer diagnosis or any life threatening illness
is often
re-orienting and can bring about a massive change of priorities.
It raises questions about what really matters to the survivor,
which may or may not be different than to the person they
were before cancer. Survivors often start thinking about
what, if any, major or minor changes need to be made. They
look at what is damaging to them at a soul and body level
and what sustains and nourishes them. A
cancer diagnosis or any life threatening illness can:
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Bring an end to a phase
of life;
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Raise questions about
the meaning of life;
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Test the bonds of relationships;
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Provide you with an
opportunity to learn why you are here and what and who
really matter;
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Serve as a wakeup call
to examine what has been resisted;
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Create the opportunity
to start living a more authentic life;
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Make you look at what’s
left for you to do;
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Give you permission
to shift your priorities;
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Give you a hunger for
life that might not have always been there;
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Create the time to take
a deeper, more spiritual look at your life;
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Give you first-hand
knowledge about the importance of focusing on living in
the present moment;
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Provide an incentive
to experience happiness and joy, regardless of the circumstances
and;
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Help you realize just
how insignificant and unimportant most of our
every day concerns are.
As
I mentioned earlier, I know what you’re going through
and the questions you’re asking yourself as I’ve
walked a similar path; I’ve walked a mile in your shoes.
It can be a lonely experience, because the people who you rely
on to support you might not be as helpful as you’d like
them to be or as they’d like to be, because they haven’t
walked the same path as you.
While they
might not be able to help you, this book can.
Since my diagnosis
in 1999 I have: read too many books on cancer, illness and
healing to count; joined a cancer support group, got second
opinions, participated in a world conference on breast cancer,
nursed my mother who was dying from breast cancer during the
last week of her life, and coached cancer survivors and led
workshops for them.
was written to provide
you with a shortcut and the steps for re-examining your life.
And that’s important because as a survivor you know
the value of time. The book will help you quickly identify
where you’d like to make changes and save you the lengthy
trial and error I went through before creating what is now
a truly wonderful life.
By using this book as a guide you will:
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Increase
the quality of your life
by identifying the major areas of your life that need
attention or to be changed, be it – money; family
and friends; career; health; personal growth; work and
home environments; significant other/ romance and fun
and recreation.
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Become
very, very clear about which hopes and dreams you want
to keep on the shelf and which ones you want to dust off
and pursue.
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Have
a very clear, personal vision of the kind of life you
want to create and live post-cancer,
which will act as your North Star as you go about creating
it; increasing the chances that you’ll achieve it.
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Remain
motivated as you pursue your vision
with the help of a vision board similar to the one used
in The Secret.
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Increase
the chances that you’ll create a life worth living.
You’ll now know what you must have in your life
to make your life worth living, whether or not that means
keeping up with the Joneses.
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Know
the reasons why what’s important to you is missing
from your life.
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Find
decision making easier,
now that you know what’s important in your life.
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Find
reaching your goals far easier,
by using a simple formula that successful people know
and use.
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Know exactly where you spend
your time and whether or not it reflects your chosen,
not apparent priorities.
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Have
time in your life for the activities and people you want,
after identifying and eliminating the ones that don’t
reflect your current priorities from your schedule.
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Free up more time after
identifying your personal time wasters that don’t
bring you joy.
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Do
a clean sweep of the people and things you were previously
tolerating.
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Be
quicker at identifying the negative tapes we all have
playing in our heads which
stop you from reaching your goals.
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Be
more adept at dealing with your negative tapes,
now that you’ve got your own personal arsenal to
handle them.
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Be
more self-assured after replacing negative tapes with
more positive ones.
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Feel
less worried about a recurrence,
after creating some strategies to deal with your fear.
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Find
it easier to move forward despite your fears,
once you understand what your fears are costing you in
the way of a happy and fulfilling life.
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Find
yourself moving towards your dreams,
having learned how to expand your comfort zone.
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Enjoy
the benefits of practicing better self-care,
now that you know that being selfish isn’t a four-letter
word, but everyone’s right.
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Find
people respecting you and your wishes more,
now that you’re better at communicating and setting
boundaries and;
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Find
yourself surrounded by people who lift you up instead
of drag you down, after
letting go of friends and acquaintances who don’t
support you.
Book Review by BC Cancer Agency
social worker
As author Kathy Santini, herself a cancer
survivor points out, life views are fundamentally and forever
changed by a cancer diagnosis. As part of living her own
"best life," Kathy has designed this compact book
(130 pages, including exercises and homework) as a written
replacement or complement for the in-person coaching and
workshops she frequently facilitates on Vancouver Island
and throughout Canada. Santini summarizes material that
will be familiar territory for many survivors, including
reflections on "what now?" - making meaning from
your cancer experience post treatment, clarifying values
and how they fit with daily living, facing your fears, self-care,
boundary setting, finding and building supports, developing
SMART goals - and finding ways of living consciously. The
materials here are adapted from diverse sources in psychology
and will provide a useful starting point for reading and
reflection. My favourite parts of the book were Kathy's
stories about her own life experiences. I wanted more depth
and detail in these stories and fewer written exercises,
but that may not be true for readers who are cancer survivors
looking for strategies in living post-treatment. Kathy's
overall tone is upbeat but not "Pollyannaish,"
and I particularly appreciated a portion of the book entitled,
"You Didn't Cause Your Cancer." since this issue
- and the tyranny of positive thinking it can create - is
something most survivors can definitely do without.
— Nancy Payeur, MSW,
RSW, Regional Practice Leader,
Patient and Family Counselling, BC Cancer Agency.
Testimonials from Cancer Survivors
| Thank you for such an
AWESOME book and workshop (but especially the book since
it goes more in-depth than what you could get into given
the time constraints of the workshop.) This is EXACTLY
what I needed at this time. EXACTLY!" — Elizabeth
Knox, photographer, Montreal. |
Kathy offers
guidance to those who wish to stay awake and live life
to the fullest. A
single phrase that she said has stayed with me and continues
to resonate as I consider life choices and directions.
Those words — "don't go back to sleep" —
are worthy advice for anyone who has been woken up by
the experience of cancer, either their own or that of
someone they care about.
— Fran Backhouse, writer and cancer survivor. |
| I highly recommend Kathy’s
coaching and the coaching tools she uses to anyone who
wants to achieve a better life. I'd been living
in limbo for a number of years after cancer and a poor
prognosis. In my fear and uncertainty, I didn't know
where to go, what I wanted from life or how to set goals,
let alone achieve them. After attending one of Kathy’s
workshops I left feeling hopeful, inspired and more
in control than I had in a long time. Now as my coach
Kathy’s helped me regain control of my life, move
forward, create the life of my dreams and to make a
difference. She’s helped me work through fears
and obstacles, changed my outlook, given me different
perspectives and opened my world to new opportunities.
I know, with her help and with my own hard work and
determination, that I will reach my goals and become
the woman I dream of being. —
Kirsten Lauvaas, public relations professional and cancer
survivor. |
| After moving through the somewhat
daunting experiences of diagnosis, surgery and chemo,
I was left in a void, trying to sort out and re-frame
what life looked like now. I heard about Kathy’s
workshop, called Life After Cancer and I jumped at the
chance. Many of the women there shared the same anxieties,
fears and emotions that I was feeling. It’s not
easy baring your soul to a group of people you’ve
never met before but I felt completely safe and comfortable
because of Kathy’s warmth and compassion. With
her guidance and expertise, some of my challenges and
priorities became clearer. Not only did I leave the
session feeling even more grateful to be alive; but
also a lot more grounded around what life might look
like ahead. Even though cancer is a solo journey
in so many ways, there’s comfort in knowing that
in this world of 'take all you can', that there are
kind and giving people like Kathy, who are willing to
share the most precious of gifts, at least to me...time.
— Sheila Hill, small business
owner and cancer survivor. |
By buying this e-book now, you can start looking at your
life right away, plan for a wonderful future, start putting
those plans in place and begin living your best life now!
It’s well worth the investment at $19.95 USD.
This step by step process is designed
specifically for cancer survivors who are aware of the importance
of time and want to begin living their best life now! Not
tomorrow or next week, but now!
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I’m Kathy Santini and as a life
and business coach and cancer survivor, I personally
want to see all cancer survivors leading happy and
meaningful lives after cancer. I want you to
be able to say that your life is better now after
cancer than it was before your diagnosis. I
know it’s possible because I’ve done
it myself. And I know you can too, if you follow
the exercises and steps in this book.
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After my diagnosis, I took a hard look at
my life, especially at who and what really mattered. And discovered
that at the top of my list was me! Consequently, after my
diagnosis I:
- Quit my secure government job;
- Nursed my Mother who was dying of
breast cancer during the last week of her life;
- Did humanitarian work in war-torn
Sierra Leone;
- Spent four months sailing through
the Caribbean and the Bahamas;
- Built a house;
- Became a life and business coach;
- Worked as an editor in a war zone
in Kabul, Afghanistan and;
- Took coach training and started my
own coaching business.
In short, I created a happy and meaningful
life and can show you how to do the same. Live
Your Best Life Now! The Cancer Survivor’s Guide to Creating
a Happy and Meaningful Life was
written to help you create the kind of life described in the
title after cancer. I do this with the knowledge I’ve
accumulated on life after cancer, including: my personal experience
and the experiences of other cancer survivors; book knowledge
gleaned from devouring books on the subject; cancer support
groups, participating in a world conference on breast cancer;
nursing my mother who died from breast cancer during the last
week of her life and through coaching cancer survivors and
leading workshops for them. Add tried-and-true coaching methods
and exercises to the mix and you’ve got a powerful potion;
all this combined is the means to a happy and meaningful life.
Here is just some of the important information you’ll
learn in these 100 plus pages of easy reading:
- Why it’s important to be here
now and to live your best life now.
- How taking a closer look at your
life can stimulate your inner healing abilities.
- Why you are not responsible for
your illness but to your illness.
- What cancer survivors have in common
beyond cancer.
- Some recommendations on some great
books on cancer, illness and healing.
- Why you didn’t cause your
cancer, despite what others might think.
- The importance of looking at your
life before diagnosis.
- The importance of listening to what
your illness is whispering to you; and what changes,
if any, it is asking you to make.
- What cancer survivors want after
treatment.
- How to reclaim the dreams that you
might have postponed or shelved.
- Ways to increase the chances that
the dreams you’re chasing will manifest and unfold.
- Methods for getting in touch with
the person you want to be – your Future Self.
- What you must have in your life
to make it worth living for you.
- How knowing what’s important
to you will make your life choices to date more understandable.
- The real reasons why what you claim
is important to you doesn’t look as important
when you take a closer look at your life.
- How knowing what’s
important to you can make decision-making easier.
- A formula for success which will
increase the chances that you’ll achieve your
goals.
- How your apparent priorities might
or might not differ from your chosen priorities.
- What you’re currently tolerating
in your life.
- Where you’re wasting your
time.
- How negative tapes are stopping
you from reaching your goals and when they’re
guaranteed to show up.
- How to decrease the impact of your
negative tapes.
- Why it’s important to start
telling yourself new stories.
- The truth about fear and what it’s
all about.
- Ways of decreasing your fears about
a recurrence.
- Ways of handling any fear.
- How to expand your comfort zone.
- Why it’s important to practice
extreme self-care.
- How to communicate effectively using
a tried and true formula.
- Why you might be avoiding conflict,
why it doesn’t work in the long run and what it
might be costing you.
- Clues that indicate that you need
to improve your boundary setting skills.
- The 1-2-3s of boundary setting.
- Why it’s important to surround
yourself with people who see you as healthy during and
after treatment.
- How the five most important people
in your life may be impacting you, for better or worse.
- Your own personal list of the characteristics
of the people who fuel you and drain you.
- The many gifts that a cancer diagnosis
brings.
Wondering
about the cost of this incredible resource?
This
information would cost you hundreds of dollars if you hired
your own personal coach. With newer coaches charging anywhere
from a couple of hundred dollars a month and up and world-renowned
coaches like Tony Robbins charging way, way more, the book
is very affordable at $19.95 USD.
And even more so if you compare the
price of the book to what it would cost you to attend
an all day seminar with a well-respected coach. Not to
mention the fact that if you’re like most people,
a few days later after coming down from your seminar high,
you’ll have lost your motivation to make the changes
you rushed out of the seminar determined to make.
The good news is that
I’m not going to charge you anywhere near what you’d
pay for your own coach or to attend a seminar, and better
yet less than most books by only charging $19.95 USD.
And the good news doesn’t stop there. You can stay
right where you are and begin reading it immediately by
downloading it now.
Think about this –
My book is less than the price of a good dinner, with
your choice of wine of course! And less than the cost
of two tickets to a movie, or three DVD rentals at your
local video store. That’s not including the popcorn!
The tools and coaching wisdom in my book
will help you create a happy and meaningful life –
a life that leaves you eager to get up every day and go
to bed “good,” tired at night. A life you
can honestly say is better now after cancer than before
it.
Are you ready to download your
e-book? Ready to start creating a happy and meaningful life
after cancer?
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Here To Order Now!
Here’s a list of what you’ll learn in each
chapter:
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Preface –
Life After A Cancer Diagnosis, Things Are Different
Now
This chapter recaps life today
as a cancer survivor and explains why you should take
the time to re-examine your life and let your unique
light shine.
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Chapter
One – My Story
Books on cancer worth looking at are referenced; you
learn why you shouldn’t for a moment believe that
you caused your cancer and my life before and after
my diagnosis.
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Chapter
Two – Looking At Your Wild and Precious Life
Learn your level of satisfaction in the major areas
of your life, see what hopes and dreams you’d
like to pursue, meet your Future Self and learn about
the power of vision boards.
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Chapter
Three – Why Keeping Up With The Joneses Doesn’t
Work
Learn or confirm what’s important to you (it may
or may not be the same as society’s), what your
top five values are, whether you’re honouring
them, how knowing your values can make decisions easier,
and the tried and true formula for achieving your goals
that all successful people know.
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Chapter Four – Time’s A Wastin’
Learn how you’re spending every hour in your week,
how it reflects your apparent priorities but not necessarily
your chosen priorities, what distractions you’re
tolerating, your personal time wasters and the people
and activities you want to add to your life.
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Chapter
Five – Lies My Saboteur Told Me
Meet your saboteur, who always shows up to whisper negative
thoughts in your ear when you change the status quo.
Learn ways of taming him, how your thoughts create emotions
which create actions and result in the life you have
now, and the importance of telling yourself new stories.
Discover what fear is really about, what it costs you
to remain afraid, how to handle fears of a recurrence
and how to feel the fear and do it anyway by expanding
your comfort zone.
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Chapter Six – The Greatest Love of All
Selfishness is not a four letter word; in fact it’s
great self-care. In this chapter you’ll learn
things you might be doing to avoid conflict, why people
avoid conflict and how you can improve your communication
skills using a tried and true approach. You’ll
learn the 1-2-3s of boundary setting and the importance
of knowing the consequence for violating a boundary
before it happens.
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Chapter
Seven – Who’s Got Your Back?
The importance of surrounding yourself with people who
see you as healthy both before and after treatment is
emphasized as is how the five most important people
in your life impact you. You’ll outline the qualities
of people that drain you and fuel you and learn the
best places to make new friends.
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Chapter
Eight – Living Your Best Life Now!
In Chapter Eight you’ll learn how cancer can be
a gift and what that gift brings. You’ll also
learn about the particular dance that is required after
cancer and take the first step toward your new life.
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More Testimonials
| Before coaching, I felt overwhelmed
by a number of things that I had let go of for years,
including un-filed tax returns and messy finances, both
business and personal. These messes were impacting all
aspects of my life. Worse yet, I couldn’t see how
to move forward or make the changes that I knew I needed
to make. There was so much to do and I didn’t know
where to start. Bringing Kathy into my life brought the
support, focus and energy I needed. Once I hired Kathy,
my successes were immediate. The excitement that came
from succeeding at something that had stymied me for so
long was incredible. We’ve only been coaching for
five weeks and yet I’ve accomplished so much. I
can’t wait to see what my life will look like in
six months. — Gail, consultant/trainer,
Victoria. |
| With Kathy’s coaching (perceptive,
challenging and always with a sense of humour) I was able
to discover a roadblock that was holding me back in my
personal and professional life. And I was able to somehow
get back in touch with that part of me that I had left
behind – the magical, excitable, courageous me.
— Cathy,
consultant, Victoria. |
For me, working with Kathy is like
finding a light switch in a darkened corridor. Her gentle
guidance through areas where I could not initially see
a way helped me enormously. She coaches with empathy,
energy and most importantly encouragement in finding the
right solution to one’s problems.
— Annabel, pro-democracy advocate and writer,
Washington, D.C. |
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Kathy Santini, life and business
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Arbutus Coaching – Growing People and Possibilities
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